Stag Night and Hen Parties

Last Sunday, there was an article in the newspaper about a female writer planning her own hen party while fretting over her husband-to-be's stag night. She was planning lots of booze and among other details, male dancers in policemen uniforms. Then she heard that her fiance was gg on a boys-only trip to Cambodia. She was thinking it would be a life-changing experience which might mean her man coming back as a better man.

She was all for it.

Then she heard from a "worldly" colleague that oh, the girls in Cambodia are 10 times cheaper than hiring girls in Singapore. Imagine, for the amount you spend on hiring 6 girls for a stag night in Singapore, you can have 60 Cambodian girls. Yes, tt was preceisely the figure that they talked about.

So, do I intend to have a hen party when I am gg to get married? I don't think so.

Someone told me that it is tradition. To have a stag night? Talk to my ass. A tradition to get involved in teenage shenanigans and celebrating the one last night of bachelorhood? Firstly, why is there a need to "make full use" of that one last night before committing to that one person? If you want to, you can make every night a stag night if you remain single. I believe it is just a sign that one is not ready to commit. If engaging in frivolous activity is a tradition before getting married, I seriously wonder what that says about a future with that person.

Like I said, if my fiance believes that he has to have a stag night if not he is just half the man he is supposed to be, go ahead. But he will not touch me until he is tested for STDs. Or any other types of diseases. Tt's what I said.

But after thinking further, I think no. I will not have him at all.

When asked if I will have a hen party, I truthfully answered no coz I pictured myself preparing myself to look beautiful on that one special day of my life. I want to look good for that one special day which marks the beginning of my life with the man that I love. But since that same man might be more inclined to be eagerly planning how to leave bachelorhood behind with a big bang then I would like to pat his hand and say don't leave it behind. Since you aren't ready then continue on. If he needs to "make full use" of that one last night before committing himself to me then I would like to say don't make that sacrifice.

I finally see that I don't have to compromise on things that I truly believe in. So I don't expect my fiance (whoever that may turn out to be) to have to compromise too if a stag night is important to him. Don't make leaving bachelorhood behind for a life with me a chore. I wouldn't want to stick to a man that thinks that way too anyway.

Not what I want

Last night's dinner with Diane was fun and really, COMFORTING. Maybe she is really one of my strongest pillars in life. I miss her when I don't see her around and I feel alright when we sms or talk on the phone but it's only when we meet up that the realisation as to how much I have missed her hits me. WHAM!!

Anyway, the quiet talk we had kept our jaws busy. This time round, there were more things to update each other about so I think when we said bye at the bus-stop, our burgers were already digested and the Milo was sustaining us for the journey home.

Anyway, like I told her, I might end up doing something for the sake of something else. 4 years ago, when I walked away from another relationship, it was because I didn't want to have to get married immediately after I graduate just because he was older than me and his bio clock was ticking. To me, getting married for a different agenda has never been what I wanted. But now, almost the same thing might happen.

To marry someone for the sake of buying a house is an even sadder excuse. To marry someone just so that the 5 years that we will be bonded to the HDB flat can pass earlier is the worst excuse I have ever heard. And he claims that since now I already know that this is what he plans and even if he proposes to me with a totally different agenda, I won't be convinced.

I never thought my life would turn out like this. It used to be because someone wanted to start a family for me but I panicked and left. Now it's because of a property. Pratical, I know. But unavoidable?

Right beneath "Getting married to get citizenship", "Getting married to acquire property so that bond pass faster" has got to be the all-time number 2. Sadly, no matter how I like to believe that I am prepared for anything to hit me, this never crossed my mind until it was right in my face.

About VDay

Right, so about VDay... We managed to get really fresh sashimi from Fassler's Wholesale Fish Market in the morning with my folks before we were supposed to celebrate VDay together. But he had a fever soom after lunch and so VDay plans had to be scraped. We were planning a picnic right??

Well, he had actually decided to pitch a tent in one of the rooms in his house and set it up to look like we were in the forest. Hahaha!! It was really amusing coz I made him spill the beans about the plans and he shared with me how he and his mum were trying to pitch the tent but found out later tt it can't be pitched properly coz it was supposed to be stuck down to the ground. And he picked out ambient music so tt it would sound like we were in the forest. Hahaha!!

No wonder he said it'll be cool, no mosquitoes and got fire also. =)

He also practised playing the guitar and sang a song for me which was really touching and well, I didn't know he could play the guitar you see. And he bought me a ring as my VDay present. A single solitaire.

His fever has not subsided yet coz it's viral fever. He has MC until today. But he seems better now. I hope he really gets well soon. =)

Rushing and Rushing

It is almost recess week now. I have my first quiz for this sem next week and an individual assignment as well as my first draft for FYP to do during the recess break. Everyone is rushing and rushing to complete this and complete that. But amid the chaos, my mates and I have been able to take a CNY break happily and to celebrate dear Crystal's birthday. I think this was the first time we stepped out tgt, just the 4 of us, for a celebration like tt. Really cosy and bloated tummies at the end of the evening.

And although we have quite a bit on our hands, we are taking a breather to plan for our Valentine's Day weekend. I sort of already gave Adam his gift coz it was a watch and I wasn't too sure if it was too big, or too clunky, etc. The guy advised me to bring it back the next day if I want to have it changed so I had to give it to him on the day that I purchased it. I am glad he liked it. He asked me, "What made you think that I wouldn't like it?" Now I wish I had waited till tml to give it to him, like more meaningful right?

But anyway, tml's kind of a family day for the earlier part of the day. We are planning a trip to Fassler Wholesale Fish Market in the morning and then a sashimi lunch with my folks. He even said that we could play mahjong with them in the afternoon. The VDay programme is only supposed to commence in the evening. It's a picnin so I am preparing the food while he picks the location. He knows what I will prepare but I don't know where we are going.

Hints that he has dropped so far:
(1) Bring a light jacket, may become cold
(2) Open area, outdoors, in the east
(3) Don't think will have mosquitoes
(4) He offered to set up a fire to warm the food up if needed, so he can make fire at the place

I am still trying to figure out where is this place. Meanwhile, back to studying for the quiz. I have 1 more lecture to go through. =)

Jobs Dilemma

I feel that I might not want the first job that comes my way. But there is that uncertainty that the better jobs after that won't come my way. Some say I should take up whatever comes first and give it a try. But then again, I feel that I want to wait. It is very frustrating, this whole uncertainty thing.

I don't want to think I will end up like a certain somebody, waiting unrealistically for a better offer to come. I mean, I do recognise that times are bad. I should be thankful for employment. But then again, I have this inner confidence that believe that I will get something better. Is that being unrealistic?

For now, it is just a waiting game. I guess I will have to see how it develops.

Gong Xi Fa Cai

Happy New Year everyone and I hope you have all collected a lot of red packets past 2 days. This is also the first CNY tt Adam went visiting with me so it was actually both a nightmare and a sweet experience. Nightmare coz both of us have never brought our partners to CNY visiting so it was a logistically challenging task and it was sweet coz after all the screaming and negotiations, we managed to spend the 2 days blissfully in each others' company. =)

Alas, due to all the new year goodies, I have a sore throat that doesn't go away and a nose that keeps running or stuffing up. I have finished the whole box of Panadol Flu (almost lah) but still, I am feeling woozy. I can blow my nose until dizzy leh!!!

CNY has always been about family so I am very happy to hear tt my bestie might be inviting someone into her family again soon. Yes Di, not trying to put pressure on you, but just simply happy that you MIGHT get him. Hehe!! It's better to be chilled about it though, so you can be the chilled one while I get all nervous and excited for you!!

Adam was also a sweet bunny and although I like to chide him, sometimes I really feel that I should learn not to be too harsh on him. He purposely went home to change his shirt coz I didn't like what he was wearing. He really put in effort for us so I have to really show appreciation for that part. Of course, like I told his mum, there will be more CNYs to look forward to together.

Ham vs FIsh

He is underground now, and uncontactable. I can't find my iPod cable so I can't upload my songs. My tuition got cancelled and I only found out when I reached my tutee's house. Nothing is going right today.

Listening to The Script's Breakeven.

I feel too full. My skin is too dry. My hair is frizzy. And during moments like these, I like to think of him. And the funny antics that he gets up to.

My mum loves him too. I think it is a FACE thing, but maybe I should let him know more often how much he means to me.

Gonna cheer myself up with a good thorough facial and a hair treatment. =)

End of First week

And no work has been done!! HAhahaha!!! Anyway, kinda looking forward to my weekend, which I believe has already begun...

Meeting RAINBOW tml, which is an exciting event because I have not seen them for almost 6 weeks I believe... And I think Baby Gordon is coming tml too! =) Adam's bringing us out for lunch before the evening rendezvous with RAINBOW.

Sunday will be a super slack day, again... Just us hanging out I think. And I will be meeting Di for lunch on Monday. Apparently, there is a lot of gossip that needs sharing!! Oh, I can't wait!!

Alright, I came online actually to look at the jobs on offer... Shall get back to proper work for now.

Insomnia

I cannot sleep... I dunno why... I just can't... I close my eyes but I can still see the blackness and I dun drift away... Sigh, shall try again in a few minutes.

Hi-lights from Eurotrip 2008

First day in London and the touristy thing to do would be to take a photo with the London Eye!! Too bad our Singapore Flyer had to stop spinning.


The winds in London are frightfully unforgiving and we had to stop for a break at Hyde Park on the way home for some hot dogs and hot chocolate!!

We have arrived in Barcelona!!!


This was taken at Park Guell. One of Gaudi's work.


Single shot of Adam at the steps of Park Guell...

Know why I was so happy?? Coz we were in the shopping district of Barcelona!! Couldn't resist swinging from the lamppost!
It was snowing on the day we climbed to Prague Castle... My toes felt wet and I told DIE! My shoes are leaking!!! But fear not, the sneakers that you all bought me for my birthday was not spoilt!! The soles were just a bit on the thin side so the cold travelled from the freezing stone floors and into my shoe so my toes felt wet. But they were not. My toes are all still intact.

Adam should have bought this...

The pastries at the bakery opposite our hostel in Berlin.

Food at the Christmas Market in Berlin. We were famished when we arrived!!

Amsterdam was a bit of a bore... Not very exciting... Just very sleazey... But there were swans swimming in the canals everywhere!!

Adam and his "Bao Zha Tou" in Amsterdam. He is posing in front of their not-so-impressive National Monument.

Lastly, taken in the ferris wheel at Hyde Park on the day of our anniversary. It has been a great trip (although we were lacking in sleep). Our suitcases survived the cobbled streets of Europe, we almost got pick-pocketed, had a natural fridge on the ledge of our Prague apartment, ate too much at Konnopke Imbiss in Berlin and smoked too little in Amsterdam. But we had fun. =)