Stag Night and Hen Parties

Last Sunday, there was an article in the newspaper about a female writer planning her own hen party while fretting over her husband-to-be's stag night. She was planning lots of booze and among other details, male dancers in policemen uniforms. Then she heard that her fiance was gg on a boys-only trip to Cambodia. She was thinking it would be a life-changing experience which might mean her man coming back as a better man.

She was all for it.

Then she heard from a "worldly" colleague that oh, the girls in Cambodia are 10 times cheaper than hiring girls in Singapore. Imagine, for the amount you spend on hiring 6 girls for a stag night in Singapore, you can have 60 Cambodian girls. Yes, tt was preceisely the figure that they talked about.

So, do I intend to have a hen party when I am gg to get married? I don't think so.

Someone told me that it is tradition. To have a stag night? Talk to my ass. A tradition to get involved in teenage shenanigans and celebrating the one last night of bachelorhood? Firstly, why is there a need to "make full use" of that one last night before committing to that one person? If you want to, you can make every night a stag night if you remain single. I believe it is just a sign that one is not ready to commit. If engaging in frivolous activity is a tradition before getting married, I seriously wonder what that says about a future with that person.

Like I said, if my fiance believes that he has to have a stag night if not he is just half the man he is supposed to be, go ahead. But he will not touch me until he is tested for STDs. Or any other types of diseases. Tt's what I said.

But after thinking further, I think no. I will not have him at all.

When asked if I will have a hen party, I truthfully answered no coz I pictured myself preparing myself to look beautiful on that one special day of my life. I want to look good for that one special day which marks the beginning of my life with the man that I love. But since that same man might be more inclined to be eagerly planning how to leave bachelorhood behind with a big bang then I would like to pat his hand and say don't leave it behind. Since you aren't ready then continue on. If he needs to "make full use" of that one last night before committing himself to me then I would like to say don't make that sacrifice.

I finally see that I don't have to compromise on things that I truly believe in. So I don't expect my fiance (whoever that may turn out to be) to have to compromise too if a stag night is important to him. Don't make leaving bachelorhood behind for a life with me a chore. I wouldn't want to stick to a man that thinks that way too anyway.